Continuation....

Its the nollywood in me, I just couldn't resist taking a break...stopping in the middle of what I was saying just to savour the moment....some people (ok one...no, two!!) are actually waiting for what I have to say :) A little bit of sadistic pleasure is always good for the soul *snigger*

Back to the topic...since I put up my last post, I've had a few very very odd questions. I use the word "odd" because they totally got me by surprise. There I was thinking people's minds would go in all directions, wondering what I was on about...only for me to discover their minds had not wandered very far and had stayed stuck with me and my reason for writing about guilt. "Have you done anything you are feeling guilty about?" "Why are you writing about guilt?"

Lol....its so funny when that happens. I am really bad at explaining myself....so basically, this is my answer NO. At this point, I'll just confess, there is something I am guilty of, I don't know if there is a "point" to what I'm saying....I just know that I have an idea and I'll go along with it..let's see where it goes ;O)

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"Does my bum look big in this?"

*GUILT* might seem a really random thing to want to talk about...but let me explain it the way I see guilt...

What is guilt??

Guilt to me is the feeling we get from the knowledge that something which shouldn't have, has come about....its the "bad" and rather unpleasant sensation we get when we genuinely regret something which has happened as a result of our actions basically. Thats the way I see it.

Well...we have to appreciate the fact that an "offense" to one person might be a normal thing for another to do. I mean if one person lies and feels bad about it, another might lie and feel like they have done something good. I'll give an example of one of the most common questions asked...by females and maybe even some males lol. "Do I look fat in this?" or even its junior sister- "Does my bum look big in this?" We all know we have asked this question (most of us) at some point or the other, and we have been on the receiving end of the question too....thats where most of the problem lies - at the receiving end of the question.

I wont go into the complexities of explaining to a person you are fond of that perhaps, their choice of outfit is not the most flattering choice they could have made. Its not an easy task, I tell you. SO most of the time, the answer is "of course not". This is not always the case however! Only a few times, the issue of whether to be honest and say "yes, your bum does look a bit large in that, please don't wear it" comes up, and I'm ashamed to say I have been guilty (a FEW times) of taking the easy way out and smiling and saying "of course not, it looks nice". This is only when the laregeness is not so glaring, and I can actually get away with telling that little white lie just to maintain peace and the feelings of the loved one in question.

The feeling afterward though, is what I am concerned about...the guilt. The feeling that I should have just told the truth and let the person know. But in my defence, and that of every other person who has been faced with this dilemma out there, the truth is that there is nothing to feel too bad about, the person who asked probably looked in the mirror, saw their looked a bit on the rotund side, and asked "does it look big in this?" when they really meant "I know my bum is big, but does it look so big that it will probably block out all rays of light for anyone who dares stand behind (or beside-in some severe cases) me?" and the simple, truthful answer to that would be "no. It doesn't look that big, it looks big , but it looks nice"...

Why, you ask, does this topic and even that of guilt have anything to do with us? Why would guilt be something we should think about.....well.....I'll leave that for you to find out in the next post :)

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You like what I did there don't you? *suspense* It's great lol....I hope you fall for my little ploy and do come back to find out why guilt is a major thing we should think about....so do come back. It will be great if you do. Love.x

Do I or don't I??

Now that my project has been done and dusted (no I don't know how I did in it yet people lol) and I've finished my exams (NO, I don't know how I did in those yet either!!) and all....I've been sitting around thinking, "I really need a hobby or something".
Well I have done for the past two days, and then I realised, I might as well continue with this :) It was actually so much fun while I was doing it, but the fact that I already had all the content written before I put it on the blog, made it a bit.....well, not really me. I initially wrote it for an article, but then I soon discovered getting an article published, even on the internet, is not always as easy as we think.
So that's how the idea of this blog came up, instead of getting my stuff on someone else's publication, I might as well have my own little one right here!
So yeah, I think I'm going to carry on with this hehe.....let's see how it goes.

And NO, I'm not going to turn this into one of the "self-obsessed" blogs I was talking about earlier, my family-friend (Toks) asked me about that and I did actually think a lot about the statement I made, but I don't take it back, I still think SOME people do use this platform (blogging) to self-promote, in a rather vain and sometimes even shallow way, but well...different strokes for different folks right? I admit, I AM judging them but that doesn't mean they might not be doing something good, they entertain and inspire people who read their blogs and that's what matters so yeah....good for them.

Hope I can do the same with this...so keep coming back and checking, let's see where this goes. x